As broadcast on the Oprah Winfrey Show this week, both Terry McMillan and Jonathan Plummer agree that the love they shared during their marriage was real. "I think that Jonathan did love me," Terry says. "After all of this started happening, I kept replaying the movie [Stella] trying to figure out…you can't fake this stuff."

"I want people to know that I did love her," Jonathan says. "And I still do…not to the extent that, you know, she wanted me to."

Despite their differences, both Terry and Jonathan say they've found closure after recently spending some quality time together. But neither Terry nor Jonathan plan to become romantically involved ever again. "It's not like we're rekindling what we lost," says Jonathan. "It's never going to happen again."

"I've already accepted you for who you are," Terry tells Jonathan. "But we're not gonna be kickin' it."

The marriage crumbled last year when Plummer told McMillan he might be gay, and she said she wanted to bash his face in with a halogen lamp. The breakup was phenomenally bitter, with Plummer claiming McMillan harassed him with gay slurs and McMillan saying he married her for a green card and money. At the time, Plummer denied ever acting on his impulses. But Plummer's most recent confessions to Oprah Winfrey differs from his previous ones. 

"I had to act on my curiosity," he admitted on the show as Terry rolled her eyes. "I had to see whether or not I was gay or straight or confused."

And under other questioning by Oprah, he confessed also to having affairs even before the split.

Jonathan maintains that he wasn't intentionally lying about his sexuality when he was married to Terry, but agrees that he was repressing something. "I identified as heterosexual when I was 20," he says. "I may have thought about [being gay], but I didn't act on it. It was not the right thing to do at the time."

He says that in the final two years of his marriage to Terry, he began to have conflicting feelings about his orientation. "Sometimes [Terry] would, you know, bring it to my attention that guys were looking at me, especially gay guys…and women, too. But she would emphasize those guys are looking at me."

"And," Jonathan says, "I liked it."

Being honest about one's sexual orientation is important, Oprah tells Jonathan. "There are a lot of young boys and girls who are watching you right now who need the truth. And every time somebody tells the truth you free other people to also be truthful. There's no reason at this point to pretend anything. For every other gay guy out there who's repressing his feelings, at least honor who you are now."

"I didn't do anything to jeopardize my health nor Terry's health," he said, apparently referring to McMillan's rants that she could have been exposed to the AIDS virus.

McMillan conceded that when she married Plummer after a three-year courtship, she didn't expect it to last because of the 24-year age difference.

"He was like having a new puppy," she said. "You treat them good and you give them unconditional love, and they will lick you and love you back."

What do Terry and Jonathan think their relationship has taught them?

"It taught me to try and be a better person," Jonathan says. "To be truthful despite how it may hurt the other person."

"I still believe in the love that I felt from Jonathan all those years—I'm going to hold on to that. Nobody can snatch that away from us."

So the couple seems to have patched things up a bit. Plummer recently stayed the night at McMillan's, and while they didn't get romantic, they did take a bath together.

"I was on my side and she was on her side," Plummer said.

"It was sort of like closure," McMillan added.

McMillan, 54, the author of "How Stella Got Her Groove Back," finalized her divorce last month from Plummer, a Jamaican-born boy toy she picked up at a resort.

After a judge ruled that Plummer couldn't challenge the prenuptial agreement he signed in 1998, he got only $50,000 in the divorce settlement.